Comments on: No Sleep, Many Thoughts http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=no-sleep-many-thoughts Wed, 04 Apr 2012 19:10:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: ! http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-265 ! Sun, 09 May 2010 15:24:47 +0000 http://readmykink.com/?p=209#comment-265 Thanks J, I enjoy sharing with the people out there. Besides, it helps me get all the thoughts out of my mind. I just came home from a nice weekend with Sir and Miss. Stuff is working out now. A post about it is soon to come! ! Thanks J,

I enjoy sharing with the people out there. Besides, it helps me get all the thoughts out of my mind.

I just came home from a nice weekend with Sir and Miss. Stuff is working out now. A post about it is soon to come!

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]]> By: J http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-264 J Sat, 08 May 2010 12:34:53 +0000 http://readmykink.com/?p=209#comment-264 I hope things are working themselves out for you now. Your posts are always very thought-provoking, so thanks for sharing. I hope things are working themselves out for you now. Your posts are always very thought-provoking, so thanks for sharing.

]]> By: Kaelah http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-263 Kaelah Tue, 04 May 2010 18:50:03 +0000 http://readmykink.com/?p=209#comment-263 I’m glad that what I wrote somehow seems to make sense to you! And don’t worry, of course there are things in life which are purely negative and sad (like losing a beloved one), but unexpected events and new paths can be great, too. During the recent years a lot of my paths suddenly changed. But the steps I had taken usually still made sense, just in a new context! Maybe one day that special relationship between Sir, Miss and you will be over. But maybe it won’t be because of a missing connection but because you’ll have met a partner and started a kinky relationship. And maybe that doesn’t mean that you’ll lose Sir and Miss, either. Maybe your relationship will just change. One never knows… I’m glad that what I wrote somehow seems to make sense to you! And don’t worry, of course there are things in life which are purely negative and sad (like losing a beloved one), but unexpected events and new paths can be great, too. During the recent years a lot of my paths suddenly changed. But the steps I had taken usually still made sense, just in a new context!

Maybe one day that special relationship between Sir, Miss and you will be over. But maybe it won’t be because of a missing connection but because you’ll have met a partner and started a kinky relationship. And maybe that doesn’t mean that you’ll lose Sir and Miss, either. Maybe your relationship will just change. One never knows…

]]> By: ! http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-262 ! Mon, 03 May 2010 21:51:40 +0000 http://readmykink.com/?p=209#comment-262 Funny you should mention your thought about Miss and I having a connection. I think you are right. Sir told me a while ago, that he thought Miss and I had a connection; and while I didn't see it at first, you helped me see it. We do care for each other and are open with each other, sometimes even brutally honest. Perhaps, in my search for the same connection I have with Sir, I ignored the connection Miss and I DO have. I believe that this experience will teach me about life, and how things often do not go as planned. I have thought about what could possibly happen, and I most certainly do not want to be stuck in a rut of self-pity. It's nice to see that your unplanned relationship with Ludwig turned out so nicely though. It gives me some confidence that things that deviate from the plan can turn out well. Funny you should mention your thought about Miss and I having a connection. I think you are right. Sir told me a while ago, that he thought Miss and I had a connection; and while I didn’t see it at first, you helped me see it. We do care for each other and are open with each other, sometimes even brutally honest. Perhaps, in my search for the same connection I have with Sir, I ignored the connection Miss and I DO have.

I believe that this experience will teach me about life, and how things often do not go as planned. I have thought about what could possibly happen, and I most certainly do not want to be stuck in a rut of self-pity.

It’s nice to see that your unplanned relationship with Ludwig turned out so nicely though. It gives me some confidence that things that deviate from the plan can turn out well.

]]> By: Kaelah http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-261 Kaelah Mon, 03 May 2010 20:57:42 +0000 http://readmykink.com/?p=209#comment-261 Again a very thoughtful and open post! I can understand your fears very well. I once was in a situation in my vanilla life where I had the opportunity to do something I wanted to do for a very long time. But then it didn’t work out the way I had hoped and I finally had to decide to give it up. Afterwards I felt very sad and insecure for quite a long time. And this wasn’t about love and sexuality! The thought of losing Ludwig and the things I’m sharing with him is much more frightening and I can’t really imagine how I could go on without him. But I’ve also learned that things often don’t turn out the way one plans. And that doesn’t mean that unexpected changes always have to be bad. For example I had very different plans for my life before I met Ludwig and I was happy with them. But now I’m even happier. I just hope that your gut feel will tell you which path to take! One more little remark: When I read your description about your feelings towards Miss and her warm and thoughtful comment I had a very strong gut feel, telling me that there IS a connection between the two of you. Maybe not the kind of connection you might need for submitting to her, but when I see how you talk about and with each other on the blog the following words come to mind: “Mutual care” and “openness”. I don’t know whether this makes any sense to you, but I just wanted to mention it. Again a very thoughtful and open post! I can understand your fears very well. I once was in a situation in my vanilla life where I had the opportunity to do something I wanted to do for a very long time. But then it didn’t work out the way I had hoped and I finally had to decide to give it up. Afterwards I felt very sad and insecure for quite a long time. And this wasn’t about love and sexuality! The thought of losing Ludwig and the things I’m sharing with him is much more frightening and I can’t really imagine how I could go on without him. But I’ve also learned that things often don’t turn out the way one plans. And that doesn’t mean that unexpected changes always have to be bad. For example I had very different plans for my life before I met Ludwig and I was happy with them. But now I’m even happier. I just hope that your gut feel will tell you which path to take!

One more little remark: When I read your description about your feelings towards Miss and her warm and thoughtful comment I had a very strong gut feel, telling me that there IS a connection between the two of you. Maybe not the kind of connection you might need for submitting to her, but when I see how you talk about and with each other on the blog the following words come to mind: “Mutual care” and “openness”. I don’t know whether this makes any sense to you, but I just wanted to mention it.

]]> By: ~Miss http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-260 ~Miss Fri, 30 Apr 2010 12:33:15 +0000 http://readmykink.com/?p=209#comment-260 pet, Hindsight is 20/20. I think that perhaps finding a single instead of a couple might possibly be a smart move; however, it is not so bad to leave all options open having just a hint of caution. With regards to your feelings of having control, I sincerely believe that is an incredibly important life lesson and although it is a challenging one, I am happy Master and I are part of it. pet,
Hindsight is 20/20. I think that perhaps finding a single instead of a couple might possibly be a smart move; however, it is not so bad to leave all options open having just a hint of caution.

With regards to your feelings of having control, I sincerely believe that is an incredibly important life lesson and although it is a challenging one, I am happy Master and I are part of it.

]]> By: ! http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-259 ! Fri, 30 Apr 2010 05:06:16 +0000 http://readmykink.com/?p=209#comment-259 Thanks Tina =) Writing everything out most certainly made sleep come easier. I think putting it all down helped me process and understand my own thoughts as well as address the fear and insecurity I am feeling. I would actually love to hear your insight, if you feel like sharing, and if you do not want to share publicly, you can always <a href="http://readmykink.com/contact-me/" rel="nofollow">send me an email</a>. Thanks Tina =)

Writing everything out most certainly made sleep come easier. I think putting it all down helped me process and understand my own thoughts as well as address the fear and insecurity I am feeling. I would actually love to hear your insight, if you feel like sharing, and if you do not want to share publicly, you can always send me an email.

]]> By: ! http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-258 ! Fri, 30 Apr 2010 05:03:59 +0000 http://readmykink.com/?p=209#comment-258 Miss, My experience with you and Sir has most definitely been full of "firsts." Like you, I absolutely have no regrets; however, in the future (be it near or far,) I will probably be looking for single playmates. In the back of my mind, i know you and Sir would end the exchange if you felt it was unhealthy, but it does not really help me much with the feeling that i have all the control. No matter what happens though, I think I will find a way to make it all work out in the end. Miss,
My experience with you and Sir has most definitely been full of “firsts.” Like you, I absolutely have no regrets; however, in the future (be it near or far,) I will probably be looking for single playmates.

In the back of my mind, i know you and Sir would end the exchange if you felt it was unhealthy, but it does not really help me much with the feeling that i have all the control.

No matter what happens though, I think I will find a way to make it all work out in the end.

]]> By: tina http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-257 tina Fri, 30 Apr 2010 03:09:11 +0000 http://readmykink.com/?p=209#comment-257 Wonderful expression! Although I can relate and understand, this is between you, Sir and Miss, so I wil keep my comments to myself. The writing is excellent. Wonderful expression! Although I can relate and understand, this is between you, Sir and Miss, so I wil keep my comments to myself. The writing is excellent.

]]> By: ~Miss http://readmykink.com/2010/04/29/no-sleep-many-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-256 ~Miss Thu, 29 Apr 2010 13:36:14 +0000 http://readmykink.com/?p=209#comment-256 pet, after our conversation yesterday I completely understood how the relationship we share is similar to that of a vanilla first love, which is why the idea of the relationship changing must feel exceptionally scary to you. The thing about life pet is that it really is all about getting hurt, picking yourself up, learning to trust others, opening yourself to many, not just two people and being vulnerable to the world. Your life is really just starting and there are so many amazing experiences to have, to embrace, to laugh from and cry from. I think "firsts" are always monumental and Master and I have been your firsts for many, many experiences. I think it is wonderful that you have learned to trust, to lean on, to turn to both of us when you wish to talk, when you need a shoulder to lean on and if our relationship has taught you anything I am honoured that we have helped teach you that you do not need to be a one woman show, that you do not need to and that it is important not to just be in a bubble, in a guarded shell stopping all wonderful chances of meeting people who make you smile, give you tingles, open your eyes to a brand new world. I can understand how awkward it can feel to have all the control with regards to ending the relationship. I believe though that this is an important lesson for you, granted a challenging one. Being responsible, being accountable for your actions actually helps make you stronger and is an incredibly important and significant life lesson. I am not sure if it helps or not but I do wish for you to know that although we are both happy to keep training you, if either me or Master feels as though the relationship is no longer healthy for you, we will make that decision to alter it, to stop the training and move to friendship. The control truly does go both ways pet. Life is short pet. Days might seem long but years pass far too quickly and it is important to enjoy the here and now. I confess it concerns me that you feel the experience of submitting to me is not a genuine one for all experiences of such a nature are best when genuine, are healthy when genuine. Change is often challenging pet and although Master and I would not disappear I understand why the idea of not being trained by us is scary. Still, holding on to something that does not feel genuine, that may not feel like a "real" experience is unhealthy and could do more damage in the long run. I am proud of you for expressing yourself. Two months ago you never would have. You have come a long way. pet,
after our conversation yesterday I completely understood how the relationship we share is similar to that of a vanilla first love, which is why the idea of the relationship changing must feel exceptionally scary to you.

The thing about life pet is that it really is all about getting hurt, picking yourself up, learning to trust others, opening yourself to many, not just two people and being vulnerable to the world. Your life is really just starting and there are so many amazing experiences to have, to embrace, to laugh from and cry from.

I think “firsts” are always monumental and Master and I have been your firsts for many, many experiences. I think it is wonderful that you have learned to trust, to lean on, to turn to both of us when you wish to talk, when you need a shoulder to lean on and if our relationship has taught you anything I am honoured that we have helped teach you that you do not need to be a one woman show, that you do not need to and that it is important not to just be in a bubble, in a guarded shell stopping all wonderful chances of meeting people who make you smile, give you tingles, open your eyes to a brand new world.

I can understand how awkward it can feel to have all the control with regards to ending the relationship. I believe though that this is an important lesson for you, granted a challenging one. Being responsible, being accountable for your actions actually helps make you stronger and is an incredibly important and significant life lesson.

I am not sure if it helps or not but I do wish for you to know that although we are both happy to keep training you, if either me or Master feels as though the relationship is no longer healthy for you, we will make that decision to alter it, to stop the training and move to friendship. The control truly does go both ways pet.

Life is short pet. Days might seem long but years pass far too quickly and it is important to enjoy the here and now. I confess it concerns me that you feel the experience of submitting to me is not a genuine one for all experiences of such a nature are best when genuine, are healthy when genuine.

Change is often challenging pet and although Master and I would not disappear I understand why the idea of not being trained by us is scary. Still, holding on to something that does not feel genuine, that may not feel like a “real” experience is unhealthy and could do more damage in the long run.

I am proud of you for expressing yourself. Two months ago you never would have. You have come a long way.

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