I understand how it would bother you, but I hope you are okay now.

It was most certainly a very awesome weekend =D

I should add I was very aroused at your accounts of your pet weekend. I want a pet.

Yes, their opinion may have been harsh, and I am sorry that you are bothered by it; but I think part of “rising above” is to not let the pessimists bother you. It is important to note that their comment was no unasked for, as this comment box is open for anyone to share their views on the activities I discuss on this blog.

This is not a poly-amorous relationship and I find it most important that anyone who reads these entries understands that.

My understanding of OK is also very different from what other people perceive it to be. I knew that I would address this “issue” and that it would be resolved in a manner we all could be happy with.

What I am more than appalled at is that a couple who actually educates others is so quick to call someone they do not know a liar. That is neither professional, nor smart. Furthermore you have to understand that this is a Master/slave relationship. I sometimes choose to make decision which are not completely consensual as to when I want to push a limit or not. IN the end this was a minor lapse in communication and not really worth discussing much further.

First off, thank you for following my blog and being honest about your opinions. I appreciate your comments and that you are concerned for us. I do not think you should ever apologize for voicing your opinions.

I would not say that the relationship I have with Sir and Miss is entirely poly; and this is most certainly not a case of Sir not caring for Miss. Miss is the only woman that Sir is in love with. He cares for her a great deal; but I think he sometimes does not pick up on when she is upset. In this case, me sucking his cock was not a huge deal for him, and he did not know that it would be a big deal for her. They simply had a small communication rut; which happens to everyone. Miss told me later that this little mishap was truly minor, and that they had worked things out the morning after.

I do not think for a second that Sir intentionally lied about Miss’s feelings. To be fair, she had just woken up from a nap; and anyone would be cranky being woken from sleep. I think he simply misinterpreted her being ticked off as her being cranky, groggy, and tired.

We have already worked past this, as the following two days I spent with them went rather smoothly. Everybody makes mistakes; even the dominants. I think it is unfair to them to get up and leave at the first little mistake that happens; just as it would be harsh for them to stop playing with me at the first mistake I make.

Thanks again for your comment. I appreciate the honesty and I welcome you to share your opinion whenever you see fit; even if it is not a “happy” one =)

I know that it is not my job to feel guilty or take care of you; but I don’t think I can help it. But in any case, please don’t feel bad that I felt guilty. It was just a small bump in the road.

I am sure that in time, I will get the same feeling of safety and security from your touch, as I do Sir’s. It’s all about going slow and steady, right?

We are an experienced poly couple. We teach and perform all over the country. She is submissive to me and we are more of a Dom/Domme couple to all girls in our house. We enjoy reading you blog…we had a very successful sex blog until a few weeks ago (long story custody battle with an ex.) So that is our background.

We read this blog and are very concerned. It is quite obvious your couple is NOT on the same page. They are not communicating and if they are he does not seem to care about his Miss and her feelings. The fact he went ahead and ordered you to orally pleasure him is fine…IF SHE is on-board with it. This is why a poly relationship fails. Lack of communication, a lack of self control and/or a lack of respecting boundaries all will destroy things.

His actions/thoughts were either not communicated with her or he pushed past the set limits and did it anyway. Either way she deserved to be pissed. OR if they were discussed and she still got pissed, then they are not in a stable enough relationship to have a third…It looks as if they are not ready, either way, to have the “challenges” of a third with them.

YOU did nothing wrong. You obeyed, you served as you were told…You should not feel guilty at all. you were doing as told. shame on them for putting YOU in the middle! His actions seemed selfish and certainly not in line with Miss. That is so important for all of you that they are on the same page. She seemed to take care of you when she woke…and not be upset with you which is cool, but even you knew deep inside she was not going to be OK with this beforehand but followed orders and and knew she was upset after she was awake…then he lied to you telling you she was ok…when she was not. This is NOT a healthy relationship. You are walking on eggshells, worried, feeling guilty. The energy was negative, you knew it, he lied to you. That is not fair to you!!!! What else is a lie then is what wee think?

We hope you work past this…well we hope THEY work past this as this is not good for you…no wonder you have anxiety and fears. Poly can be a wonderful thing, but not like this!

maybe we read this all wrong…we hope so. But there is just too much at stake for you not to say something. Good luck and great writing!!!!

I genuinely feel bad that you felt any level of guilt for I do not believe it is your place to be concerned, to worry yourself with what I am feeling, I hold that level of responsibility on Master just as I hold all responsibility on me when Master is not happy with an exchange I am participating in.

That evening was a perfect example of both me and Master not being perfect and although it was unpleasant for the moment, with forgiveness on both our parts and a long conversation to share feelings, we worked through it and moved forward.

I accepted a very long time ago that I would not be the definition of perfect; however, I am perfectly me.

I am not surprised by your feelings regarding when Master hugs you. In fact it makes sense as Master has been far more open, more accepting of all that has transpired than I have and that has come out in my hugs, in my physical expressions. I would like to think though that as time passes and I become more comfortable touching you and you become more secure in the knowledge that I will not just “up and end things” that my hugs will hold the same level of safety, of security that you feel Master’s do. (And not that you ask for it but I want you to know I am not upset by your words, I just wanted you to know I can understand your feelings.)

I look forward to the second and or third part pet.

~Miss